Comments on: Withdrawing from BarCamp SouthEast

By: Sorry I missed BarCamp Ireland - SouthEast at Tom Raftery’s I.T. views

Sorry I missed BarCamp Ireland - SouthEast at Tom Raftery’s I.T. views — Sun, 21 Jan 2007 18:45:55 +0000

[...] I posted recently that I was going to be unable to attend for family reasons. In the comments of that post though, Elly Parker generously offered to conference me in for a period. That was great and I was really looking forward to it. [...]

By: Tom Raftery

Tom Raftery — Sat, 20 Jan 2007 12:02:23 +0000

LOL

thanks Elly for giving me my first laugh of the weekend.

I have been accused of many things over the years but I can honestly say this is the first time anyone has called me overbearing.

In fact Damien Mulley often tells me I am too modest!

Good to know I am getting over that issue.

By: elly parker

elly parker — Sat, 20 Jan 2007 10:08:39 +0000

Paul, that’s your personal opinion, perhaps I’m biased because of the knowledge of the issue that I have.

If you want me to be honest, when i first met Tom at the previous BarCamp I found him to be somewhat overbearing. I only offered the help that I did because I’ve been in the same situation as Tom, I lost my father 7 years ago. I was trying to be a nice person about it and put my personal feelings aside. Tom, IMHO, did not manage to do the same this week, so i felt obliged to withdraw my offer.

By: Paul Walsh

Paul Walsh — Fri, 19 Jan 2007 21:22:00 +0000

Elly - I read the post you wrote on your own blog and thought it was biased. This is to be expected as your partner works for Blacknight. I didnâ€™t feel compelled to comment as itâ€™s none of my business. And to be honest, I didnâ€™t put much pass on it, either way.

However, you got to admit that this particular comment is a little harsh given Tomâ€™s circumstances? You know why heâ€™s not attending, yet youâ€™re going out of your way to be unhelpful because your partner works for a company that Tom has had a fallen out with. What makes matters worse is that you personally had a good experience dealing with Tom, or you wouldn’t have offered to connect him.

I’m guessing that you’re either very inexperienced or extremely insensitive. I hope itâ€™s the former so you can learn over time.

By: elly parker

elly parker — Fri, 19 Jan 2007 15:32:04 +0000

Tom, I’m sorry but I’m going to have to rescind my offer above to conference you into BarCamp tomorrow.

IMHO, I think that you have handled the situation with Blacknight very badly, and since my fiancÃ© works for them, I do not want to place myself in the middle of the current discussion…

By: Tom Raftery

Tom Raftery — Tue, 16 Jan 2007 00:53:08 +0000

Elly, that’d be a great idea. I’d love to do that, thanks.

By: Cybez

Cybez — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 22:29:43 +0000

I’m not surprised, you’ve had it rough recently. I’m sure they’ll have a webcam of some sort set up for you to join in online.

By: elly parker

elly parker — Mon, 15 Jan 2007 12:31:23 +0000

I’m sorry to hear you won’t be attending, I was looking forward to catching up with you again, but it’s understandable after all the events of the past two weeks.

Will you have a good net connection where you are on Saturday? We could always try and Skype/Blueface you in for one of the sessions if you liked - taking an hour for yourself would be a good thing for you but you wouldn’t be leaving your Dad either…. Let me know and we can try and sort things out…